Many times I'm asked "why do you wear a purity ring?" And I decided to finally address the issue.
I was not forced by my parents, church leaders, family or friends to remain abstinent until marriage--it was a choice that I willingly made. And here is why:
1. I believe that sex is a beautiful thing.
2. I believe that sex should be about love and not lust.
3. I believe that sex should not be an accident and something that a person regrets weeks later.
Here’s a cheesy scenario that I use frequently to explain why I’m waiting.
Let’s say that sex is like your favorite dessert (not literally, but just use your imagination). Imagine your favorite dessert just came out of the oven/freezer—this symbolizes lust. Now imagine sharing your favorite dessert with someone other than your husband/wife—this symbolizes having sex with someone other than your wife/husband. So, let’s say that things don’t work out with you and the person that you had sex with. A couple of years later you meet the man/woman of your dreams and she/he is everything that you looked for in a person. Okay, so let’s say a few months later you propose. Now let’s say that the person of your dreams has never had sex and they tell you that they want to wait until the night of the wedding. By now you’re probably feeling so horrible, because you shared a piece of your dessert (sex) with someone that you don’t even think about anymore. You gave a piece of yourself to someone other than your wife/husband. You are basically going to give your husband/wife a chewed up piece of dessert (sex). Imagine how your wife/husband is going to feel each time the both of you have sex; she/he is going to probably be comparing themselves to the past sexual relationships that you had and that is not healthy for either one of you.
I am not trying to preach to anyone, I’m not judging or throwing scriptures at people, and I’m not trying to say that people who’ve already had sex are horrible people.
Recently, bachelor star Sean Lowe and Catherine Giudici were on Jimmy Kimmel Live and talked about how they both decided to remain abstinent until their wedding night. It’s such a bold thing to do in today’s society, and I respect the both of them very much.
Waiting to have sex is not easy at all. We live in a society where lust leads to sex, rather than love leading to sex. It’s not easy waiting, but it gives me a future to look forward to and that’s why I am waiting.